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Jai Shree Krishna

 

   Born           

1946          

Upletta, India      


Jai Gayatri Maa

 

      Demise          

8th August 2006

Tanga, Tanzania

Bhanubaa

Smt Bhanumatiben Thakershibhai Jivanlal Pattni

 

It is with great regret that we inform members of our community that Late Bhanuben Thakersi Pattni, aged 60 of PO Box 5100, Bombo Area, TANGA, Tanzania very sadly passed away at 10.30a.m. On Tuesday, 08th August 2006.

 

The funeral took place on Thursday 10th August 2006 at Tanga Hindu Crematorium

Tributes by Pallavi Parmar

I would like to take a moment to talk about the beloved Bhanuba and how she will be remembered & missed.

 

For us she is known as Bhanuba who migrated from Upletta, India in 1959 with her Dad, Late Jivabhai and Late brother Jagubhai. I am not sure if her sister Manjuben (now in Leicester) came the same time to Tanga. She then travelled to Kampala for at least 4 months and returned Tanga which became her home.

 

Bhanuba then got married in 1964 to Late Babukaka (real name Thakersi, third son of Jivanbhai Mulji) of Pemba. The family who were in Pemba then later moved to Tanga (Tanzania Mainland) due to Zanzibar/Pemba Revolution in 1962.

 

Soon after the marriage, having stayed in Mombasa for few months and then moving to Pemba after the revolution, Bhanuba spent most of her entire life in Tanga with the Family.

 

Bhanuba was a very pious, soft spoken, kind hearted person and loved children very much. Unfortunately, 16 years of her marital life she did not have any children. Then my parents (Dad, Late Harsukhlal & Mum, Chandrika) being younger brother of Babukaka) were married and I was born.

 

I (Pallavi) being the first child in the family was really loved & pampered especially by Bhanuba. I still have fond memories of my childhood with her. I was her favourite. She used to take me with her where ever she went. Being so close to her I used to call her Bhanu and when we visited her (nephews & nieces – Mukesh, Raj & Chetna in particular, they always told me “you can’t call our fai, by her name” but as a kid everyone let me. Small mementos’ like these keep coming into our minds when we talk about Bhanuba & all the unconditional love she always shared with us.

 

She would normally talk about anything & to everyone who visited us. She was always there for us and she had time for everyone. She always asked about the wellbeing and happiness of everyone. She would always say how much she adored us and how thankful she was for all we were doing for her.

 

Up to this age she was very fond of watches, jewellery (gold bangles, necklaces’ & rings) and different types of rubber bands for her hair. She preferred to identify the exact that matched with her sari. Seeing her this way made us all happy that she never lost hope despite suffering from Diabetes that worried her mainly, that caused her partial blindness since last year. I can talk about her and never stop. It was just last year that we met her, though made sure to speak to her as often as I could. It seems those endless time we spent all together with us (I mean kids which we were to her), mimicking her style and making her laugh are all priceless.

 

I am not sure how my brothers & sisters feel her absence at home in her favourite chair in the sitting room or in our common room where we always saw her or in the dinning room the seat which was always next to mine. Although I am so far away here in London but I miss her very dearly. We are fortunate to have captured fond memories of her dancing & being happy at Minal’s wedding in August 2005, where we all last celebrated together.

 

Finally, we would like to thank Bhanuba for always loving us as her own children and always being there for us.

 

Bhanuba, you will always be remembered and we all miss you very much, but you can now rest and be at peace.

 

Grief of death makes us all ponder over life's essential meaning.

When we loose our beloved ones, our closest loved ones, we are torn apart within us.

We cannot even find the appropriate words to express the greatness of the burden of grief.

There is no fullest solace to 'grief of hurt of loosing someone we love so much' except in the deepest compassion of letting go of that spirit of life whom we dearly loved into the grand divine ocean of destiny wherein we all merge eventually just as all rivers end in the ocean.


Tribute by Chetna Pattni (neice), London

We all miss Bhanufai.

She passed away day before Raksha Bhandan. To get through the difficult days to accept that our fai is on longer with us -  Our thoughts were that she has gone to her late brother to tie a Rakhi. 

A bit more information on my fai - Bhanuben.

Bhanufai's parents:
Father:    Late Jiwabhai Ram Thadesar
Mother:   Late Maniben Jiwabhai Thadesar
Brother:  Late Jagjivan Jiwabhai  Ram    -    My father
Sister:   Manjulaben Virji Ghadghada
Unfortunately, we have not told Manjufai about her sister's death as her health is bad at the moment.


Jai Shree Krishna

Chetna

“Truly, it is in the darkness of our sorrows that we find the light of Eishwaar nearer to our soul divine, knowing and realising that Eishwaar - Param - Eishwaar Jagat - Atman is awake and that eventually all great sorrows such as grief of hurt of loosing someone we love transform into spiritual awareness, spiritual strength, and spiritual realisations.“

 

“Strength is born in the deepest silence of suffering and hurting and weeping.

Weep if you must, but let go of that beautiful spirit of life whom we loved continue onwards in its spiritual journey into the spiritual world where no one intrudes.” 

 

Quotes from Shri Bhagwat Gita
na jayate mriyate va kadacin nayam bhutva bhavita va na bhuyah

ajo nityah sasvato yam purano na hanyate hanyamane


vasamsi jirnani yatha vihaya navani grhnati naro'parani

tatha sarirani vihaya jirnany anyani samyati navani dehi


acchedyo'yam adahyo'yam akledya'sosya eva ca

nityah sarva-gatah sthanur acalo'yam sanatanah

 

The soul never takes birth and never dies at any time nor does it come into being again when the body is created. The soul is birth less, eternal, imperishable and timeless and is never terminated when the body is terminated.

 

As a person gives up old and worn out garments and accepts new apparel, similarly the embodied soul giving up old and worn out bodies verily accepts new bodies.

 

The soul is indestructible, the soul is incombustible, insoluble and un-wither able. The soul is eternal, all pervasive, un-modifiable, immovable and primordial.


We wish to convey our sincere gratitude to all our relatives, friends and well wishers for their support, sympathy, and condolences by personal visit, telephone and by e-mail.

 

Jai Shree Krishna

 

Family of Bhanuba (Jivanbhai Mulji Pattni)

 

Durgaben Mohanbhai Pattni (Jethani)

Chandrika Harsukhlal Pattni (Derani)

Niranjan Jivanlal Pattni (Devar)

Priscilla Niranjan Pattni (Derani)

 

Family of Jivabhai Pattni (Brother of Bhanuba)

 

Jayaben Pattni (Bhabhi)

Mukesh Pattni (Nephew)

Raj Pattni (Nephew)

Kishore Pattni (Nephew)

 

All Children in the Family

 

Dharmesh Harsukhlal Pattni

Heeral Niranjan Pattni

Prinita Niranjan Pattni

Tanya Niranjan Pattni

Abhishek Niranjan Pattni

 

Pallavi Bhavi Parmar & Bhavi Parmar (Jamai)

Darshana Minesh Asher & Minesh Ramesh Asher(Jamai)

Dhrish Minesh Asher (Grandson)

Minal Hiten Nandha & Hiten Shashi Nandha (Jamai)

Nieces

 

Usha Pattni

Urmi Pattni

Bharti Pattni

Chetna Pattni

 

and all Pattni members